Friday, July 4, 2008

Someone Came Before You

Thank you for all the kind words, it means so much to me. Gregory's 2nd birthday was a lot harder than I thought it would be. I really believed that it would be easier than last, but maybe it doesn't get easier. I sometimes think that I don't want it to get better. I want to feel that raw grief if only to remind myself that Gregory is real. I don't know if that makes me normal or crazy.

And if you need a cry, I highly recommend picking up a copy of Someone Came Before You, by Pat Schwiebert. It's the We Had An Angel Instead for the babies that came after the baby that died. Connor is still a bit young for it, but it's still a lovely addition to his library. It's beautifully illustrated and the story is just so sweet. They do an excellent job of keeping it simple enough for a younger child but it's still really appropriate for an older child. They include tips for talking with your living children, resources for dealing with grief, and suggestions on ways to keep the memory of your baby alive as a family.

4 comments:

Monica said...

oh.. ((hugs)). Sweet Gregory.. I'm sorry his second was painful. I think they all will be. I know what you mean about the pain too. I feel like it connects me to Jimmy, so if I don't feel pain it's like I'm not close to him. Thanks for the tip on the book. I'm definitely getting it.

Monica H said...

I didn't knot they made such a book, but then again I've never had the need to get one. Thanks for the recommendation.

I'm sorry Gregory's birthday was so hard, but I'm glad you made it through.

((HUGS))

Kristi said...

Thanks for recommending this book. I just blogged about this topic.

I'm sorry that Gregory's 2nd special day was so hard. I understand about the pain, I feel the same.

Rosepetal said...

"I sometimes think that I don't want it to get better. I want to feel that raw grief if only to remind myself that Gregory is real. I don't know if that makes me normal or crazy."

Well then, we're both either normal or crazy as this is EXACTLY how I feel. I also wrote a post on this topic (which was hijacked by a troll but the post still stands).

Hugs.