Friday, July 4, 2008

Someone Came Before You

Thank you for all the kind words, it means so much to me. Gregory's 2nd birthday was a lot harder than I thought it would be. I really believed that it would be easier than last, but maybe it doesn't get easier. I sometimes think that I don't want it to get better. I want to feel that raw grief if only to remind myself that Gregory is real. I don't know if that makes me normal or crazy.

And if you need a cry, I highly recommend picking up a copy of Someone Came Before You, by Pat Schwiebert. It's the We Had An Angel Instead for the babies that came after the baby that died. Connor is still a bit young for it, but it's still a lovely addition to his library. It's beautifully illustrated and the story is just so sweet. They do an excellent job of keeping it simple enough for a younger child but it's still really appropriate for an older child. They include tips for talking with your living children, resources for dealing with grief, and suggestions on ways to keep the memory of your baby alive as a family.